My mentor taught me love is an action. As is forgiveness, humility, discipline, honesty, and character. I was very immature for a man of forty but when I started taking action I started to grow up. My mama taught me in order to make friends I had to be a friend. It took me almost 35 years to understand. Thanks for a great read.
A very thoughtful essay; thanks. Love confronts each of us with our own self-contradictory nature, the various parts of our brain vying in often different directions. We passionately wish our mate to satisfy each of our wishes, from the reptile brain's mindless lust to appreciating complex music, but even the most perfectly-formed android could not hope to accomplish such a feat. Add the fact that any real-life person is bound to have habits and quirks and beliefs that we find entirely baffling. How to cope? That's the challenge love brings, to let go of so many things that could otherwise pointlessly irk us, to focus on appreciation of the solid core of the other person.
My mentor taught me love is an action. As is forgiveness, humility, discipline, honesty, and character. I was very immature for a man of forty but when I started taking action I started to grow up. My mama taught me in order to make friends I had to be a friend. It took me almost 35 years to understand. Thanks for a great read.
Thanks for the kind words. You have a great mentor and mama!
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Doc, I appreciate your kind support.
My paternal grandmother told me when I was about 11. “To be loved you have to be lovable” it obviously impacted me as this was 50 yrs ago.
What a wonderful gift of wisdom from your grandmother!
A very thoughtful essay; thanks. Love confronts each of us with our own self-contradictory nature, the various parts of our brain vying in often different directions. We passionately wish our mate to satisfy each of our wishes, from the reptile brain's mindless lust to appreciating complex music, but even the most perfectly-formed android could not hope to accomplish such a feat. Add the fact that any real-life person is bound to have habits and quirks and beliefs that we find entirely baffling. How to cope? That's the challenge love brings, to let go of so many things that could otherwise pointlessly irk us, to focus on appreciation of the solid core of the other person.
Beautifully expressed. Thank you!