“Most people…see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved, rather than that of loving, of one’s capacity to love.”
Perhaps people learn the wrong lessons from dating…and from the ghastly modern trend of young people sharing their "expertise" about dating on Instagram and Tiktok.
Men are told that insouciance is attractive. Women are told to play hard to get, or to withhold some portion of their love and affection. Better to be the one who loves at 50% than the one who loves at 100.
Do they perhaps carry these "lessons" with them into marriage?
Just speculating. All I know is that my wife and I keep looking for new ways to express, show, and feel ever-greater love for each other, and it's really nice.
Thank you for the kind words and added wisdom, Chris.
"All I know is that my wife and I keep looking for new ways to express, show, and feel ever-greater love for each other, and it's really nice." Beautiful!
One of the best observations and advice on marriages I’ve read. It should be required or at least recommended reading before any couple considers getting married.
“Most people…see the problem of love primarily as that of being loved, rather than that of loving, of one’s capacity to love.”
Perhaps people learn the wrong lessons from dating…and from the ghastly modern trend of young people sharing their "expertise" about dating on Instagram and Tiktok.
Men are told that insouciance is attractive. Women are told to play hard to get, or to withhold some portion of their love and affection. Better to be the one who loves at 50% than the one who loves at 100.
Do they perhaps carry these "lessons" with them into marriage?
Just speculating. All I know is that my wife and I keep looking for new ways to express, show, and feel ever-greater love for each other, and it's really nice.
Terrific post!
Thank you for the kind words and added wisdom, Chris.
"All I know is that my wife and I keep looking for new ways to express, show, and feel ever-greater love for each other, and it's really nice." Beautiful!
❤️🙏❤️
One of the best observations and advice on marriages I’ve read. It should be required or at least recommended reading before any couple considers getting married.
You are very kind, Neal. Thank you!