Quite right. And there are many "dishwashers" in our relationships with others, and perhaps particularly, with our significant other. "Why does she ..." could begin any number of sentences. Who knows? Usually it's not important to find out why, but only to say, "OK, that works too." It's good to keep in mind that many of MY habits, preferences, and opinions are probably baffling to others, so who am I to pontificate? The Golden Rule points the way to peaceful conduct, but I find its usual expression a bit confusing and would phrase it, "Show the same consideration for others' wishes as you would have them show for yours."
Quite right. And there are many "dishwashers" in our relationships with others, and perhaps particularly, with our significant other. "Why does she ..." could begin any number of sentences. Who knows? Usually it's not important to find out why, but only to say, "OK, that works too." It's good to keep in mind that many of MY habits, preferences, and opinions are probably baffling to others, so who am I to pontificate? The Golden Rule points the way to peaceful conduct, but I find its usual expression a bit confusing and would phrase it, "Show the same consideration for others' wishes as you would have them show for yours."
JdL, I always appreciate reading your insights. Thank you.