Couldn't agree more, of all times this here's the one ta lift up forks in unison, and put aside "beefs" (u bet, cuz we're all gonna "talk turkey" now..) Sharin' the holiday with gratitude an' appreciation is more important now than ever and with that senty-mint, an apt quote below:
“After a good dinner one can forgive anybody, even one's own relations.”
"This Thanksgiving, we can practice denying ourselves the 'pleasure' of contradicting others."
Let's face it, it IS fun to be armed with enough knowledge to demolish something wrong-headed. But as you say, doing without considering others' feelings comes at a very real cost. Also, it's unlikely to plant a seed in the other person's mind if I set up a "me versus you" posture. More effective, and less disruptive to pleasant discourse, would be to ask a question about the other's views, which (perhaps) gently points to a weakness. Or an oblique, "I've heard that X sometimes leads to trouble," rather than "X is ridiculous." Or even (hardest of all) saying nothing, allowing the conversation to flow on to other matters. If an assertion is so obnoxious that it really must be confronted, most likely it's not so urgent that it can't wait for another day, in a setting not involving innocent bystanders.
Thank you for this wise and compassionate advice, Barry.
I’ve prepared a list of questions people can select from to help prompt healing dialogue and have encouraged my readers to listen respectfully to the narrative believers’ perspective of what has occurred over the past three years:
Couldn't agree more, of all times this here's the one ta lift up forks in unison, and put aside "beefs" (u bet, cuz we're all gonna "talk turkey" now..) Sharin' the holiday with gratitude an' appreciation is more important now than ever and with that senty-mint, an apt quote below:
“After a good dinner one can forgive anybody, even one's own relations.”
― Oscar Wilde (from A Woman of No Importance )
Excellent Barry and Happythanks
Excellent Barry and Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family
"This Thanksgiving, we can practice denying ourselves the 'pleasure' of contradicting others."
Let's face it, it IS fun to be armed with enough knowledge to demolish something wrong-headed. But as you say, doing without considering others' feelings comes at a very real cost. Also, it's unlikely to plant a seed in the other person's mind if I set up a "me versus you" posture. More effective, and less disruptive to pleasant discourse, would be to ask a question about the other's views, which (perhaps) gently points to a weakness. Or an oblique, "I've heard that X sometimes leads to trouble," rather than "X is ridiculous." Or even (hardest of all) saying nothing, allowing the conversation to flow on to other matters. If an assertion is so obnoxious that it really must be confronted, most likely it's not so urgent that it can't wait for another day, in a setting not involving innocent bystanders.
Thankful for you Barry🙏🙏🙏
Thank you for this wise and compassionate advice, Barry.
I’ve prepared a list of questions people can select from to help prompt healing dialogue and have encouraged my readers to listen respectfully to the narrative believers’ perspective of what has occurred over the past three years:
• “30 Questions for a Narrative Believer” (https://margaretannaalice.substack.com/p/30-questions-for-a-narrative-believer)
This might be best saved for after-dinner activities :-)
ha ha! truth in that'un!--an' a Happy Thanksgivin' back at'cha!