If something happens that bothers you, ask yourself.
Does it matter? Often, like in Seinfeld, you won’t remember it if you don’t overthink it. Just not important.
Is it true? Did this actually happen? Did someone actually cause it?
Could I just have easily been the “villain” here? Have I with no malice done similar things?
And the fourth is conditional- if I have a long term relationship with this person, and I view this interaction in context, doesn’t all the kindness make this unimportant?
Three ideas to combat resentment. Actually four.
If something happens that bothers you, ask yourself.
Does it matter? Often, like in Seinfeld, you won’t remember it if you don’t overthink it. Just not important.
Is it true? Did this actually happen? Did someone actually cause it?
Could I just have easily been the “villain” here? Have I with no malice done similar things?
And the fourth is conditional- if I have a long term relationship with this person, and I view this interaction in context, doesn’t all the kindness make this unimportant?
Thank you for adding your wisdom, Rivka!
Real forgiveness comes when you realize you were never hurt. The right result occurred whether it came in the way or form you thought it would happen.