We Find Purpose in the Important, not the Urgent
We Find Purpose in the Important, not the Urgent
Notice how your thinking goes into overdrive when focusing on the urgent.
In his book Effortless, Greg Mckeown writes, “When our brains are at full capacity, everything feels harder. Fatigue slows us down. Outdated assumptions and emotions make new information harder to process. The countless distractions of daily life make it difficult to see what matters clearly.”
Yet, perversely, “Our brains tend to prioritize immediate satisfaction over long-term rewards,” reports Tim Herrera.
Herrera writes, “Even if we know a larger, less-urgent task is vastly more consequential, we will instinctively choose to do a smaller, urgent task anyway.”
President Dwight Eisenhower knew his attention could be hijacked. He observed, “I have two kinds of problems, the urgent and the important. The urgent are not important, and the important are never urgent.”
Have you ever wondered why one person is successful and another isn’t when both seem to have talent? The reason may be more fundamental than raw talent, luck, or timing. During an interview, Jerry Seinfeld explained the secret of the mega-success of Seinfeld by describing how he and Larry David worked:
In most TV series, 50 percent of the time is spent working on the show, and 50 percent of the time is spent dealing with personality, political, and hierarchical issues of making something. We spent 99 percent of our time writing. Me and Larry. The two of us. The door was closed. It’s closed. Somebody calls. We’re not taking the call. We were gonna make this thing funny. That’s why the show was good.
Like President Eisenhower, Jerry Seinfeld and Larry David distinguished between the urgent and the important.
In his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey explains the difference between the urgent and the important. He writes, “Urgent matters are usually visible. They press on us; they insist on action. They’re often popular with others…But so often they are unimportant!”
Covey gives an example, “Urgent things act on us. A ringing phone is urgent. Most people can’t stand the thought of just allowing the phone to ring.” When Covey wrote his classic book, landline telephones commanded our attention.
Today, we phub others with our smartphones. Yesterday, Covey observed we were rude to others as we answered a phone call: “You could spend hours preparing materials, you could get all dressed up and travel to a person’s office to discuss a particular issue, but if the phone were to ring while you were there, it would generally take precedence over your personal visit.”
Today, we let our phone calls go to voicemail. But how many of us are willing to be interrupted by our texts, emails, and social media status?
We have all experienced moments that Seinfeld describes. We sit at our desks; the day is new, and we are eager to complete the project. We check our emails and immediately react to what Seinfeld called “personality, political, and hierarchical” issues. We’re upset. We tell ourselves we will deal with the issue later; now is the time for the project. But, we find our mental horsepower is processing our “urgent” response to the email. The more “important” issue that could move forward our project slides to the back burner.
Covey urges us to be clear on what is essential in our lives. “If something is important,” he writes, “it contributes to your mission, your values, your high priority goals.” He adds this caution, “if we don’t have a clear idea of what is important, of the results we desire in our lives, we are easily diverted into responding to the urgent.”
Notice how your thinking goes into overdrive when focusing on the urgent. Your breathing and your heart rate speed up, too. Notice when, in urgent mode, you are not always a nice person. You see people as objects; if not irrelevant, then others are either helping you fulfill your urgent needs or standing as obstacles to meeting your needs. You are in constant analytical and evaluation mode. A lot of blaming is going on, directed toward not only others but yourself.
In short, focusing on the urgent is exhausting and gets you nowhere. Those days spent firefighting urgent problems can turn into months and years.
Covey sees another way of being: “Effective people are not problem-minded; they’re opportunity-minded. They feed opportunities and starve problems. They think preventively. They have genuine…crises and emergencies that require their immediate attention, but the number is comparatively small.” In other words, they don’t spend their day firefighting problems only to return home, get some rest, and start the tedious cycle again tomorrow.
How much of the day do you spend dealing with urgent but not important meetings, emails, texts, or checking social media? How much time is spent on what is not urgent and not important, such as binge-watching television? Covey has harsh words for those whose time is ill-spent: They are “basically lead[ing] irresponsible lives.”
Seinfeld spent his time dealing with important but not urgent activities. Undoubtedly, he had difficult days when his scriptwriting was not going well. How tempting it must have been to take a break, deal with an “urgent” staff issue, or have lunch with his agent. Instead, he went back to work. Going beyond a good comedy to an excellent comedy to an all-time great comedy took talent and practice. Most importantly, it took a commitment to the important over the urgent.
If President Eisenhower had not focused on the important while commanding the Allied forces, would World War II been lost?
What can you do if too much of your day is spent on firefighting urgent problems? You are in good company. Covey writes, “It’s incredibly easy to get caught up in an activity trap, in the busyness of life, to work harder and harder at climbing the ladder of success only to discover it’s leaning against the wrong wall.”
Do you need to make better “to do” lists? Read more time management books? Get a new job?
Covey would say you need a more basic adjustment. Perhaps you have forgotten or have never realized what is important. He observes, “We say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to things daily, usually many times a day. A focus of correct principles and a focus on our personal mission empowers us with wisdom to make those judgments effectively.”
“Begin with the end in mind” is one of the habits that Covey encourages us to cultivate. When you do, “Each part of your life— today’s behavior, tomorrow’s behavior, next week’s behavior, next month’s behavior— can be examined in the context of the whole, of what really matters most to you.”
Most people, Covey found, believe their problem is a “lack of discipline.” Covey believes they are mistaken—they don’t know what is important, they are not governing their lives by timeless values and principles.
Ask yourself this question: What can I do today that is not urgent, that no one is pushing me to do, but if I made progress, would it lead me down the road to deeper meaning in my life? Pivot in that direction each day; deep abiding fulfillment will come your way.
An earlier version of this essay was published at Intellectual Takeout.
As we continue our exploration of Meditations, one theme Marcus Aurelius continually explored was how we sabotage a well-lived life. In 2.7 he warned us to beware of people who “act in ways that are as meaningless as their words.” Meditations were written as a self-corrective and not to correct others, so it is good to remember that we are always a choice away from a meaningless day.
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Barry, I'm starting to feel very inadequate every time I read one of your articles man but I suppose that's my ego talking.
Oh dear, I feel like you must have been watching this week, as the urgent completely swamped the important. I had read Covey previously, and his reminders are practical and on point. It is interesting to me that in all the crazy busyness of his life, Marcus took the time to journal his thoughts. I find that the only way to really understand the difference between urgent and important is by stopping all activity to just sit, meditate, pray, and write down the jumble of thoughts and feelings. And when I get caught up in the urgent, none of that happens until I make that explicit decision to stop.
On the way to dropping off the kids to school this morning, the subject of self control came up, and how difficult it is for kids and adults, but it's an important part of maturing. The apostle Paul also identifies self control as one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit, which identifies its connection to the divine. Much of the pressure to focus on the urgent can be helped by working on increasing self control - the ability to clue in when you're about to go off the rails and then stop and choose a different path.