Bonds That Make Us Free, Session 5: Blame is the Monster
We'll incorporate any new information to validate our current self-deceptions.
This past week, in Session 4, we worked with the question, “What can I do to help things go right?”
Warner poses another question in Chapters 9 and 10, further guiding us to change our perspective.
While you may prefer answers to questions, Warner recognizes that someone else's answers may not be suitable for your needs.
To ask ourselves a good question is to be willing to look at our blind spots and self-deceptions.
The poet E. E. Cummings wrote, “Always the beautiful answer Who asks a more beautiful question.” By our willingness to ask a “beautiful question,” the truth about ourselves and others emerges.
Frances Peavey likened an excellent question to “a lever used to pry open the stuck lid on a paint can.”
Yet, questions are often resisted. Our maladaptive defenses are designed to keep us stuck and prevent a “beautiful answer” from emerging.